Comparison study : Appraisal and Resignation

Comparison study : Appraisal and Resignation In appraisal meeting they will speak only about your weakness, errors and failures. In resignation meeting they will speak only about your strengths, past achievements and success. In appraisal you may need to cry and beg for even 10% hike. In resignation you can easily demand (or get even without asking) more than 50-60% hike. During appraisal, they will deny promotion saying you didn't meet the expectation, you don't have leadership qualities, and you had several drawbacks in our objective/goal. During resignation, they will say you are the core member of team; you are the vision of the company how can you go, you have to take the project in shoulder and lead your juniors to success. There is 90% chance for not getting any significant incentives after appraisal. There is 90% chance of getting immediate hike after you put the resignation.

 

60 ISLAMIC WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE OF YOUR WIFE. GUARANTEED!

60 ISLAMIC WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE OF YOUR WIFE. GUARANTEED!

1. When you go home say 'Assalmualikum. (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of  home!

2. Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquility) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

3. Prophet (saw) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that’s fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.

4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC.

5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet saw said if your angry, sit down, if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!

9. Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed - Sallal lahu Aleihi Wasallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him (Muhammad).) said 'I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.

10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER

11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said 'When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst them'.

12. Prophet (saw) said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear.

13. Give her surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her out of the blue, will grow love in her heart.

14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet (saw) said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!

15. We all have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakh in your marriage.

16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.

17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.

18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.

19. In front of her relative praise her. Say  that she is wonderful/ good person in front of her family.

20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet (saw) said gifts increases love.

21. Get rid of routine once in awhile, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!

22.We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.

23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!

24. Increase your  patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.

25. Expect and respect her jealousy.

26. Be humble and  respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your successes.

27. Don't put your friends above your wife.

28. Help your wife at home. Prophet (saw) used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes.

29. Help her respect your parents, you can’t force her , but she can be helped to gradually love them.

30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife.

31. Remember your wife in your Duaas. It will increase the love and protect it.

32. Leave the past. It gives nothing but pain. It’s not your business. The past is for Allah.

33. Don't try to show her that you are doing her a favor by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)

34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person  It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done,  And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job.

35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet (saw) taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.

36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shitaan.

37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. ITS A CHARITY.

38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. If there is small thing she didn't like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.

39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) 'if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.' It confirms prophet (saw) was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.

40. Respect her thinking. Its strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.

41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her and find success within as her success is your success.

42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet (saw) said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs  be treated tenderly. At time she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.

43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).

44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.

45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.

46. Let her know you are traveling. Don't tell her out of the blue as its against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.

47. Don't leave the house as soon as trouble brews.

48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.

49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases/strengthens ns the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e., do tahajuud together, or  go to a dars together etc.

50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.

51. Allah( swt) said 'live with your wives in kindness.' Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.

52. Prophet (saw) showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!

53.  When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.

54.  Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.

55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet (saw). Get rid of this disease.

56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.

57. Have mercy on her weakness.  Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet (saw) said that your wife is a trust in your hand.

58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.

59. Accept her as she is. Prophet (saw) said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet (saw) said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.

60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

May Allah fill our homes and heart with tranquility, love and Mercy.  AMEEN

 

61 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love

61 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love

1.      Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.

2.      Smell good!

3.      Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break. 4.

5.      Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”

6.      Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complain about.

7.      Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!

8.      Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:

A.   Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or

B.   Amicable divorce

9.      Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.

10.  Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights

11.  Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.

12.  Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

13.  Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.

14.  Tell him he’s the best husband ever.

15.  Call his family often.

16.  Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.

17.  When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.

18.  Encourage him to do good deeds.

19.  If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, inshaAllah.

20.  Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.

21.  If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.

22.  When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.

23.  Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.

24.  Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home.

25.  If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.

26.  Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.

27.  Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.

28.  Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.

29.  Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.

30.  Learn to make his favorite dish.

31.  Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.

32.  Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.

33.  Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah putbarakah in everything you do.

34.  Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

35.  Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”

36.  Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.

37.  Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.

38.  Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.

39.  Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.

40.  Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.

41.  Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.

42.  The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

43.  Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work.

44.  Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

45.  Brush your hair, everyday.

46.  Don’t forget to do laundry.

47.  Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.

48.  Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)

49.  Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.

50.  Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.

51.  Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.

52.  Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)

53.  Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).

54.  Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.

55.  If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until matters become worse.

56.  Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.

57.  Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …” (thats a killer!)

58.  Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!

59.  Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

60.  If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel

61.  Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.

May Allah preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners, ameen!

Corporate Culture - for fun

Maths made EAZY

Three is equal to four

Theorem: 3=4
Proof:

Suppose:
a + b = c

This can also be written as:
4a - 3a + 4b - 3b = 4c - 3c

After reorganizing:
4a + 4b - 4c = 3a + 3b - 3c

Take the constants out of the brackets:
4 * (a+b-c) = 3 * (a+b-c)

Remove the same term left and right:
4 = 3

 

 

Dollars equal cents

Theorem: 1$ = 1c.
Proof:
And another that gives you a sense of money disappearing.

1$ = 100c
= (10c)^2
= (0.1$)^2
= 0.01$
= 1c

 

Dollars equal ten cents Theorem: 1$ = 10 cent Proof: We know that $1 = 100 cents Divide both sides by 100 $ 1/100 = 100/100 cents => $ 1/100 = 1 cent Take square root both side => squr($1/100) = squr (1 cent) => $ 1/10 = 1 cent Multiply both side by 10 => $1 = 10 cent

 

 

N equals N plus one

^2 means raised to the power 2 or squared

Theorem: n=n+1

Proof:
(n+1)^2 = n^2 + 2*n + 1

Bring 2n+1 to the left:
(n+1)^2 - (2n+1) = n^2

Substract n(2n+1) from both sides and factoring, we have:
(n+1)^2 - (n+1)(2n+1) = n^2 - n(2n+1)

Adding 1/4(2n+1)^2 to both sides yields:
(n+1)^2 - (n+1)(2n+1) + 1/4(2n+1)^2 = n^2 - n(2n+1) + 1/4(2n+1)^2

This may be written:
[ (n+1) - 1/2(2n+1) ]^2 = [ n - 1/2(2n+1) ]^2

Taking the square roots of both sides:
(n+1) - 1/2(2n+1) = n - 1/2(2n+1)

Add 1/2(2n+1) to both sides:
n+1 = n

 

 

All numbers are equal

^2 means raised to the power 2 or squared

Theorem: All numbers are equal.
Proof: Choose arbitrary a and b, and let t = a + b. Then

a + b = t
(a + b)(a - b) = t(a - b)
a^2 - b^2 = ta - tb
a^2 - ta = b^2 - tb
a^2 - ta + (t^2)/4 = b^2 - tb + (t^2)/4
(a - t/2)^2 = (b - t/2)^2
a - t/2 = b - t/2
a = b

So all numbers are the same, and maths is pointless.

Do's and Don'ts of Dealing With a Bad Boss

Do's and Don'ts of Dealing With a Bad Boss

 

How do you deal with a bad boss? follow these general rules for coping with a bad or ineffective boss.
 

• Do act professionally in all situations.

• Don't reduce your productivity, feign illness, or otherwise compromise your job.
• Do find a mentor -- within or outside the organization.
• Don't confront your boss in an emotionally- charged rant.
• Do consider scheduling a meeting with your boss to discuss ways your boss could change his/her behavior.
• Don't go to the boss of your boss, except as a last resort.
• Do find an outlet to vent your frustrations and anger, but don't do it with co-workers.
• Don't expect your boss to change -- or at least change overnight.
• Do watch for opportunities to transfer to another department within the company.
• Don't simply try and block out all the bad behavior; doing so will impact your physical and mental health.
• Do use your network to keep abreast of better opportunities outside the company. And do have your resume up-to-date and ready to send out.
• Do evaluate your performance on the job and consider ways to improve your behavior, but don't blame yourself for a bad boss.
• Don't think you are alone in having a bad boss; several studies suggest that many of us have to deal with a bad boss at one time or another in our careers.
• Do consider keeping a journal that documents all the bad behavior of your boss.
• Don't sacrifice your health of self-esteem by staying in the job for the sake of a job. Do consider quitting your job -- even if you don't have a new job lined up -- if continuing to work for your bad boss is likely to permanently damage your career.
• Do continue to document all your accomplishments.

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